Wednesday, July 24, 2013

What about the Dad's of the Stay at Home Mom's?!

So many blog posts, stories, sites, and social media pages are about the stay at home mom. You always here of the stay at home mom this, and the stay at home mom does that...but what about the dad's of the stay at home mom's? It seems like there is hardly any thing written about the father's that are out there busting their tails to provide for their family so us stay at home mom's can in fact....stay at home. When this dawned on me it broke my heart and I started to have some personal conviction issues. So wanted to write a post on just that, and a little tribute to them. Especially one dad in particular. John's dad...my hubby! :)

I tell you what. I give that man much praise! I have seen him take on more hours at work, and study hours on end during the week for some huge exams that would allow him to move up in promotion. Often times he has taken on more volunteer work to boost his resume and position in the company, has diligently sought out more ways to financially help our family, bust his tail to make incentive that quarter...and ultimately I have seen him put his full faith and trust in the Lord (even when I didn't) when he missed that quarter incentive. If it wasn't for him and the good Lord above I wouldn't be able to stay at home with John and our soon to be second blessing, Natalie. Even though he fully supports me staying home...he comes to me often and gives me praises because he doesn't see how I can stay at home all day and do what I do. It is so much appreciated, and I do give him praises back for all that he does...but, he really has no idea how much I admire his strength, his drive, his motivation and determination to do all that he does everyday to provide for our family...

...and it's not just my husband. I've seen it in other stay at home mommy friends hubbies as well. They work so hard, diligently and faithfully for their family! God bless our men! It bothers me though...that society has placed this status on them that this is just what they are suppose to do. Bring home the bacon. Be the main supporter. It's an expectation...so there is hardly any credit given towards them and its like all the focus goes on us stay at home mom's and all that we do. It also seems as if us mother's often times take them for granted...I know I am extremely guilty of this. This is where my heart breaks...and my own personal convictions come into play. I have nagged, complained, and burdened my husband with so many things when he gets home from work. To do list that don't ever get completed in the time I think it should be completed. The fact that he doesn't get to spend a lot of time with me during the week because he's too busy studying for promotion, or a lot of times I've complained when our conversations are cut short once he gets home from work because he just needs some time to unwind from the stressful workload or week. They already have so much pressure on them and then here we come along with our own pressures. I know I am not the only one guilty of this...and it should break all of us SAHM hearts who are just as guilty like I am. We should be praying more over our husbands instead of nagging them. Encouraging them instead of burdening them. Supporting them like they support us...instead of griping that the to do list is not completed, and lastly, loving them instead of giving them added pressures. 

So if you are a stay at home mom...and definitely feel the same way will you join me in committing to work on these areas with our husbands? Let's uplift, encourage, love and support our so hard working father's and hubbies. They do all they do so we can stay home and raise our children and manage our households. I know our jobs as SAHM's are no walk in the park lots of days. Being a stay at home mom is a huge calling, with no break, no pay, and seems like not enough hours in the day lots of times to get all that we need to get done. It can be overwhelming at times, but boy isn't it such a huge blessing and honor that we wouldn't have any other way and how blessed we are that our husbands support us in this calling! But, let's...let it not be all about us! Let's humble ourselves and uplift our men because they are so worthy of that and so much more!


Ephesians 5:22-24
"Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands."


ps. I know not all families have the option for the mother to stay home. Every family situation is different. There are Dad's that can't work for whatever reason and then there are some that are not even in the picture. Then there are moms who are perfectly content and happy with being a mom and having a profession which is awesome!! There are also a lot of times that the family has to be supported on both incomes. I totally understand this...totally been here. This post is not meant to sway towards one side or another...or if saying that being a sahm is the only way. This post is however just an eye opener for us stay at home mom's to wake up and support our working husbands. If you are a working mom...please know you are so blessed beyond measure and you are greatly admired by us stay at home mom's so much! Thank you for all that you do for your family! God bless you mama!

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